Below is a link to a very good article called “What Not to Say to Someone Who Has Been Hurt by Church,” by Jonathan Hollingsworth. It is about interacting with those who have suffered spiritual abuse. Note what it does not say as well as what it does say…
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No one sews a piece of unshrunk cloth on an old cloak, for the patch pulls away from the cloak, and a worse tear is made. Neither is new wine put into old wineskins; otherwise, the skins burst, and the wine is spilled, and the skins are destroyed; but new wine is put into fresh wineskins, and so both are preserved.” ~Matthew 9:16-17 (NRSV)
Today we all, in the comfort of the modern western world, take indoor plumbing for granted. It is so much a part of our lives that we scarcely notice it, unless there is need to call a plumber. And yet, there are ALL kinds of problems with it, which we are quite blind to most of the time. Frankly, I’m a little bothered that no one even talks about these concerns. Continue reading
“…Um, what was that Doug? You’re not helping your cause here…”
Allow me to explain. We live in a radically different culture than we did 20, 30, 50 years ago. There was a time when “if you build it, they will come” worked. As long as you had a quality program and quality ministerial staff, you could count on attendance. Note that I’m talking about strictly numbers here, bodies. Whether or not spiritual growth was really happening and the gospel was being truly communicated was just as much a question then as it is today. But at least there were more people coming to churches and being involved in them so as to be (hopefully!) more exposed to that gospel. At that time church was still a cultural norm. There were less restraining forces in the culture discouraging church-going than there were driving forces in the culture encouraging it.
Not so today…. Continue reading